If I asked you - what is parenting about, what would you say?
Most parents answer with the truest definition of the word, "It's about raising well-rounded children."
par·ent ala Webster’s dictionary
be or act as a mother or father to (someone).
"the warmth and attention that are the hallmarks of good parenting"
synonyms: raise, bring up, look after, take care of, rear; hand-rear
"those who parent young children"
To be sure, raising kids is the job of parenting but every parent knows it’s so much more than that. The parent experience tells us something major is taking place inside of us.
Ask yourself these questions.
Do you often feel vulnerable?
Do you feel you're losing your sense of self?
Do you search for answers outside yourself?
Do you stuff feelings?
Do you feel inadequate?
Do you feel overwhelmed?
Do you worry you are ruining your child?
Do you wish you could change your child?
Does your child ask more of you than you feel you can give?
Does your child push you out of your comfort zone?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you know being a parent is about you as much as it's about your child.
It also means you are human. And that's a good thing.
Now the question is - what do to do with all these feelings? It's a choice, not a given, that we take responsibility for our whole selves.