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What's Parenting About?

January 18, 2018


If I asked you - what is parenting about, what would you say? 

Most parents answer with the truest definition of the word, "It's about raising well-rounded children." 

par·ent ala Webster’s dictionary 

to parent 
a verb
be or act as a mother or father to (someone).
"the warmth and attention that are the hallmarks of good parenting"
synonyms: raise, bring up, look after, take care of, rear; hand-rear
"those who parent young children" 
To be sure, raising kids is the job of parenting but every parent knows it’s so much more than that. The parent experience tells us something major is taking place inside of us. 

Ask yourself these questions. 

Do you often feel vulnerable? 
Do you feel you're losing your sense of self?
Do you search for answers outside yourself? 
Do you stuff feelings? 
Do you feel inadequate? 
Do you feel overwhelmed?  
Do you worry you are ruining your child?  
Do you wish you could change your child? 
Does your child ask more of you than you feel you can give?  
Does your child push you out of your comfort zone? 
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you know being a parent is about you as much as it's about your child.

It also means you are human. And that's a good thing. 

Now the question is - what do to do with all these feelings? It's a choice, not a given, that we take responsibility for our whole selves.

What Parents Are Saying

"Kimberly asks hard questions, and holds my feet to the fire. She has a gift for asking the right questions, and coming up with strategies that are manageable, comprehensible and always on target. "
- Single mother of two adopted boys (ages 9 &13)
"Kimberly has been a God-send to me. She always gets where I’m coming from and supports me while giving me guidance, tools and hope. "
- Single mother of one (18)
"Her approach is caring, no-nonsense and action oriented. I would definitely recommend her."
- Single father of three (ages 9, 9 & 12)
"We sometimes wonder how we managed as parents before we met (Kimberly)! We feel more confident and calm as we parent our kids together. "
- Father of two (ages 3 & 5)
"She is superb at finding the right balance of coaching, guidance and providing practical tools. She is insightful and encouraging but also knows when to provide the necessary push me to look deeper at my reactions to given situations. ... I strongly urge any parent to work with Kimberly, especially when a parent is confronted with recurring challenging interaction with your child."
- Mother and stepmother of four teenagers
""Thank you for believing in me, Kimberly! You made me realize that there is hope and I appreciate your sincerity and kindness.""
- Mom of 2 under 4