Parents! We are Working Castles
Imagine you’re a castle. Where would you be? On a cliff overlooking a turbulent sea, at the edge of a forest, on a hilltop surrounded by green pastures?
Is there a moat with a drawbridge or are you in the middle of a lake? Do you stand alone or are you the centerpiece of a busy village?
What about the guards whose job it is to protect your castle? Do they stand at alert with weapons in hand or are they playing solitaire on an overturned barrel?
As you enter, imagine the interior architecture of your castle. How many rooms and corridors are there? Is it a simple design or do you need a map to find your way around?
Are there guards or is the interior undefended? Can visitors move freely about or are there cordoned off areas no one has entered for years, rooms you forgot existed?
Is your castle a fortress built to protect or impress or is it a refuge?
Everyone we know must enter through the front gates. Everyone except our children. This is because they are born inside our castle walls. This fact is what makes the parent-child relationship different than any other relationship in our lives.
We spend a lifetime building a defense system, which in a single moment is undone by the arrival of our very own child. We find ourselves more vulnerable than we’ve ever been before, making our greatest parenting challenge figuring out the meaning and purpose of this vulnerability.