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On the Road With Parenting You

December 06, 2017

 

Kevin and I left Vermont a few days before Thanksgiving and are making our way through the South in our Teardrop trailer. Our destination is Point Reyes, California by December 22, where our family is gathering for Christmas. In the New Year, I'll be hosting a series of Parenting You workshops from Petaluma to San Diego.

As I write this, I'm sitting in a donut shop in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. I just interviewed Brooke, a writer, and mother of a two-year-old daughter. See the interview tomorrow on Instagram @Parenting_You

Every person I meet has profound parenting wisdom that supports my belief that we KNOW how to parent, but stuff gets in the way.

What is clear is how much children are loved by their parents. Love is not the problem. If there is a problem, it's powerful feelings taking over. And we don't know what to do with them.

Parenting books tell you what to say and do but not what these feelings mean. It's why parenting is about the parent and why making the U-turn is so important.

One mom said that parents deal with a lot of shame for not being "good enough." When asked what parents talk about when they get together, she said, "Oh, always our kids. It's like we're trying to prove we're a good parent by only sharing how great our kids are."

"Do you talk about the challenges of parenting? How being a parent makes you feel? Really feel?"

"Only with my best friend. Otherwise, I'd feel exposed and judged. I don't want anyone to know how I really feel. It's competitive being a parent today. No one wants to let on they're scared or overwhelmed."

What Parents Are Saying

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- Single mother of two adopted boys (ages 9 &13)
"Kimberly has been a God-send to me. She always gets where I’m coming from and supports me while giving me guidance, tools and hope. "
- Single mother of one (18)
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- Single father of three (ages 9, 9 & 12)
"We sometimes wonder how we managed as parents before we met (Kimberly)! We feel more confident and calm as we parent our kids together. "
- Father of two (ages 3 & 5)
"She is superb at finding the right balance of coaching, guidance and providing practical tools. She is insightful and encouraging but also knows when to provide the necessary push me to look deeper at my reactions to given situations. ... I strongly urge any parent to work with Kimberly, especially when a parent is confronted with recurring challenging interaction with your child."
- Mother and stepmother of four teenagers