On the Road With Parenting You
Kevin and I left Vermont a few days before Thanksgiving and are making our way through the South in our Teardrop trailer. Our destination is Point Reyes, California by December 22, where our family is gathering for Christmas. In the New Year, I'll be hosting a series of Parenting You workshops from Petaluma to San Diego.
As I write this, I'm sitting in a donut shop in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. I just interviewed Brooke, a writer, and mother of a two-year-old daughter. See the interview tomorrow on Instagram @Parenting_You
Every person I meet has profound parenting wisdom that supports my belief that we KNOW how to parent, but stuff gets in the way.
What is clear is how much children are loved by their parents. Love is not the problem. If there is a problem, it's powerful feelings taking over. And we don't know what to do with them.
Parenting books tell you what to say and do but not what these feelings mean. It's why parenting is about the parent and why making the U-turn is so important.
One mom said that parents deal with a lot of shame for not being "good enough." When asked what parents talk about when they get together, she said, "Oh, always our kids. It's like we're trying to prove we're a good parent by only sharing how great our kids are."
"Do you talk about the challenges of parenting? How being a parent makes you feel? Really feel?"
"Only with my best friend. Otherwise, I'd feel exposed and judged. I don't want anyone to know how I really feel. It's competitive being a parent today. No one wants to let on they're scared or overwhelmed."