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Caged Children - We Reap What We Sow

June 26, 2018

 

We live in a world where we put children in cages and wonder why mental illness is rampant.

Brene Brown posted how her husband, a pediatrician, can translate a child’s crying. He says the cries of immigrant children separated from their parents is trauma response crying and is doing grave damage.

In Denver today, a 23-year-old male followed a mom driving her three sons to the dentist into the parking lot. The man pulled out a gun and started shooting. Her oldest son was killed.

This isn’t just about guns. This is about dysfunction and mental illness. But what is the root cause of mental illness?

My father once said that we would come to a tipping point in this country where there would be more people in need than people who can help them.

We are here.

What’s the connection between caged immigrant children and the man who shot the mother and her sons?

We need to take a step back and see how trauma shapes a human being.

Our world is crowded. We are inundated with sordid, demented, crazy stories of people hurting people.

People deal with pain and trauma one way or another.

If our country is a large family, then we must look to our leadership as parents of sorts, whose job it is to protect their children. When we don’t or won’t, we put our children at risk. Not just physical and emotional risk, but brain risk.

Trauma damages brains, which ultimately changes the course of children’s lives.

These children will remember their parent being taken from them. Will they be helped later if they show signs of PTSD, or when they become angry and self-loathing, or when one of them buys a gun to express unresolved trauma?

Whose responsible for mental illness in this country?

Children are crying and telling us, “you are hurting me.”

The hard truth is?—?children grow up.

And we reap what we sow.

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