Who I Am
Hi friends, I’m Kimberly! I’ve been smack center in the parent-child relationship field all my life. As a child and adolescent. As a parent. As a teacher and school counselor. As an adolescent and family therapist, and now as a parent coach and educator.
I am committed to helping parents embrace the challenges of parenting.
I was “that kid!” The one every parent wishes would “behave.” Little did I know that my disruptive personality was doing an important JOB. My job was to bring balance to my family.
Every family has shit going on.
That’s not the problem. The problem is when parents don’t deal with what’s going on beneath the surface.
There was a lot of not dealing with stuff growing up. That’s ok now. I understand. But when I was a kid, I didn’t have a clue. I just thought… all the negative thoughts that kids think when their parents are “pre-occupied.”
So I tried to break the spell with creative and dramatic behavior. I won’t go into it here, but let’s just say I was who my mom called, ” a drama queen.”
Back then it sounded like criticism and was. Now I wear the crown of “drama queen” with pride. I was a working therapist even then.
Parenting is an opportunity to face and embrace longstanding inner challenges. Inspired by how much we love our child, complicated by how they trigger us, our growing edge comes from our willingness to do what it takes to become the best version of ourselves.
But we grow up and all the experiences of our early years come with us.
Even though I tried, I could not erase the past. So there was nothing else to do but turn toward it. Which I did. Making the science of the parent-child relationship my life work.
First I had to understand myself, so I got a Master’s in Adolescent Psychology.
Then I had to understand the family system and the psychology of relationship, so I got a 2nd Master’s in Mental Health Counseling.
Along the way, I developed this work, inspired by IFS – Internal Family Systems Theory.
I have 4 adult kids, Freeland, Keenan, Phineas, and Jackson, and I’ve been married to Kevin for 33 years. We live in Vermont and Brooklyn. I love to garden. I love good food and wine and finding creative ways to connect over a meal.
And I love this work!