About Me

Kimberly Hackett is a therapist and parent coach who has dedicated her life to helping children.

Kimberly grew up in Washington, D.C., the middle of five children born to a British mother and Bostonian father who were married for 55 years. She developed a rebellious streak as a teenager that informs the work she does today.  

As an adult, Kimberly has devoted both her personal and professional lives to protecting children. She has worked as a nanny, a journalist, a school counselor, and a theatre director, among other things.

One of Kimberly’s proudest accomplishments is raising four children, who are now in their 20s and 30s, with her husband in Vermont. When the kids were young, Kimberly and her husband homeschooled for 10 years.

Kimberly went to graduate school to receive her first masters degree when she was in her 40s. She chose to study adolescent psychology and focus on identity formation because she wanted to understand why tragic events, such as a high-profile murder that affected friends in New England, happened.

She later received her second masters degree in mental health counseling. While she was a practicing mental health counselor, she learned that the best way to help children was to work directly with their parents—helping parents understand their own personalities and how their actions affects their kids.

Kimberly’s experience led her to create Parenting You, an original parenting model that makes parenting about the parent, not the child. The model is inspired by Richard Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems model, or IFS, which she learned when she trained to be a mental health counselor.

Kimberly believes that society’s most important asset is the parent-child relationship, and she is proud to work with families of all backgrounds, encouraging adults to grow into the parents they want to be and the parents their children need them to be.

When Kimberly is not holding Parenting You workshops in different parts of the country or leading private coaching sessions with parents, you can find her working on an upcoming book, tending to her garden, and marching to the beat of her own drummer.

Kimberly lives with her husband of 32 years in Montpelier, Vermont. Most recently, Kimberly embarked on a cross-country road trip with her husband to celebrate the holidays in California with family, and to interview parents along the way for her forthcoming book about the parent experience.

What Parents Are Saying

"Kimberly asks hard questions, and holds my feet to the fire. She has a gift for asking the right questions, and coming up with strategies that are manageable, comprehensible and always on target. "
- Single mother of two adopted boys (ages 9 &13)
"Kimberly has been a God-send to me. She always gets where I’m coming from and supports me while giving me guidance, tools and hope. "
- Single mother of one (18)
"Her approach is caring, no-nonsense and action oriented. I would definitely recommend her."
- Single father of three (ages 9, 9 & 12)
"We sometimes wonder how we managed as parents before we met (Kimberly)! We feel more confident and calm as we parent our kids together. "
- Father of two (ages 3 & 5)
"She is superb at finding the right balance of coaching, guidance and providing practical tools. She is insightful and encouraging but also knows when to provide the necessary push me to look deeper at my reactions to given situations. ... I strongly urge any parent to work with Kimberly, especially when a parent is confronted with recurring challenging interaction with your child."
- Mother and stepmother of four teenagers
""Thank you for believing in me, Kimberly! You made me realize that there is hope and I appreciate your sincerity and kindness.""
- Mom of 2 under 4